Humbleness The Formula of winning friends & influencing people -Ahmad Bhuiyan
Bradley Owens is a renowned psychologist. In 2013, Owens and his colleagues conducted a study at Brigham Young University. The study included 144 undergraduate students in a management course. The subject of the research was very exceptional – humility! This investigative work had completed over a period of one year on participating students. The whole study was about humility, which is completely undisclosed compared to other success determinants like confidence, self-esteem and talent.
Being an innate tendency of man, he does not have a clear idea about his own sense of humility. Some may be claiming to be too humble, while others may not be acknowledging that they are being humbled to an admirable level. The questionnaire was designed in such a way that everyone will evaluate his classmate’s humility. That is, the problem of judging oneself was no more. In light of some statements, the students gave a thoughtful opinion about his friend.
The statements were:
*He is spontaneously interested in the reactions of others to his own work, even if it is bitter enough.
*He is ready to openly admit his inability to do anything.
*If someone else is more adept at a particular subject than him or if he has a clear idea, he is ready to accept it liberally.
At the end of the year, the researchers got an amazing result. The ones who were the most humble throughout the whole time are the most advanced in terms of efficiency. On the other hand, those who had a very high opinion about themselves, in most cases, have seen relatively less success. Humility has undoubtedly proved to be far more effective in predicting success than any other intellectual measure. We often say that such a person is ‘gifted’ or innately gifted. For those who are deprived of these titles, humility is most effective.
Those who were one step ahead in terms of humility may not have had a great start of the year. Still, they were able to make a growing improvement in themselves by slowly acknowledging their limitations, weaknesses and failures. On the other hand, those who showed comparatively less humility, their performance chart was much stagnant. No overall expansion was noticed in their case. That is, judging from the point of view of teachers, humble students are more eager to learn.
Why humility is so important?
The presence of humility helps a person at the top of an organization to see his own limitations, inefficiencies, thought gaps, etc. positively. He alone is not enough for the maximum profit of the organization – this feeling encourages him to work side by side with others. Therefore, Angela Merkel, Chancellor of Germany, is one of the best leaders in the world, partly because of her humility.
In addition to discharging his responsibilities, he encourages everyone to share ideas and make constructive comments when they sit in the leader’s seat. The results can be compared to the trickle-down effect. Everyone’s balanced participatory culture spreads throughout the organization or team. When everyone in an organization is ready to give their best with honest courage, the success of that organization is inevitable. There is no substitute for the humility of the team leader to bring out the highest dedication from each member of the team. If he makes a mistake, he takes responsibility for it and chases everyone for the solution. He is the source of light scattered in the absolute moment of success.
Some advantages that come at the hand of humility.
No clear or ideal definition of a leader or leadership is ever possible. It is very natural for leadership to be influenced by the way people work, the way they think, the ability to make decisions, the wisdom, and so on. But the presence of humility in a leading person drives him towards inclusion. When success is achieved through equal participation of all, then everyone finds the indescribable joy of gratitude towards themselves as well as others. In this self-centred world, there are very few things that I feel are nice enough to openly acknowledge the contributions of others. The great virtue of being grateful to one’s profession, work and contribution- there is no chance to underestimate it.
Business is said to be a great game of gaining something and losing something. In business, no single loss is considered a complete loss. Only a humble leader can find out the minimum that is hidden in the midst of the greatest loss. The practice of looking at any failure from the point of view of an apprentice without looking at it from the point of view of a judge is what leads an organization to success. When success is finally achieved, a leader teaches in a polite way to say that today’s achievement is basically a perfect combination of all the right-wrong, good-evil, prudence-short-sightedness of the past. All in all, at the end of the day, everyone can say out loud, “The Humble, The successful.”