Keeping your temper
Our Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said – “A wrestler is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the wrestler is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
(Muslim, Birr, 106; Bukhari, Edeb, 76)
Dear brothers and sisters,
The Prophet of mercy sent a message to be engraved in hearts and minds with this simple but yet such a meaningful message. He warned us about giving in to rage which causes so many regrets, tears, and remorse. Once, a man approached him saying, “O Messenger of Allah! Give me one succinct counsel!” And he replied: “Do not get angry.” One’s ability to keep their temper is a manifestation of being a mature individual and a perfect believer. Because when overwhelmed with anger, the individual will not see nor hear anything; their reason and conscience are rendered out of use. Those who have lost their temper is stripped of mercy and tolerance; they become offending and destructive. They may exhibit extreme behavior that causes loss of life.
As humanity, we are living in an age of stress today. From time to time, we encounter exasperating incidents in daily life. We witness almost every day many tragic events, cautionary stories, and sad incidents caused by anger. The devil plants seeds of hatred, spite, and revenge with the weapon of anger. Kinship, friendship, and brotherhood can turn into animosity with feuds and disputes that begin with trivial reasons. A moment of anger takes away happiness and destroys dreams in families, work environments, and in different areas of daily life. Many homes burn away with the fire of momentary anger. It tears our hearts out to see that spouses, children, parents, neighbors, and innocent people pay the price with their lives when humankind succumbs to anger.
We should always keep the fact in our minds that life is a test for us. We should filter through good sense everything we hear and everything we experience. Let us, as believers, have mercy, compassion, tolerance, and patience at all times. Let us not darken our hearts with the captivity of anger and with emotions like hatred, fury, and hostility.
Jobayer Al Mahmud, Student, Uludag University, Bursa, Turkey